Q. I’ve become more religiously observant than my family. I go out of my way to be sensitive, but now they’re asking me to compromise way more than I ought to?

A. Here’s what we’ve found. There are three types of people in your situation:

(1) They never budge, never accommodate.

(2) Forever compromising, forever giving in.

(3) Always sensitive, accommodating as much as and when possible, but firm and unwavering to pressure when appropriate.

For the most part, in the long-term # 3’s get the most respect and they get to cherish both their religion and their family.